Jan 1It is easy — just ask, “How’s your grief?”I have been clear in my articles and in my book, “Come As You Are: Meditation & Grief,” about what people can do to support grieving people. There are a great number of products that provide no use whatsoever, including sympathy cards, donations made in a person’s name, hug emojis…Grief6 min readGrief6 min read
Dec 25, 2022Member-onlyGaslighting the Grieving Part 2“Why are you so angry?” That same person who attempted to invalidate the truth about grief by pinning it on “my journey” attempted to gaslight me by labeling me as angry. I am a direct, tell-it-like-it-is, blunt kind of guy. I don’t try to sugarcoat what I’m saying, especially when it’s vital to understand what…Grief4 min readGrief4 min read
Dec 24, 2022Member-onlyGrief Support SystemsChallenges, Crossroads In his book “Never Finished,” David Goggins tells the story of the Leadville Trail 100 Run (aka The Race Across The Sky) in 2019. In his book Goggins describes how, as the race went on, a support person who was following him and had poles with them offered him the…Grief11 min readGrief11 min read
Dec 18, 2022Member-onlyGaslighting the Grieving Part 1”It’s your journey — everyone is different.” It was inevitable that in writing the book, “Come As You Are: Meditation & Grief,” and the subsequent articles on grief and loss over the past couple of years, I would piss off my friends. After all, I am writing about grief and loss, and I am using my own…Grief5 min readGrief5 min read
Dec 12, 2022Member-only“People can’t have empathy”There have been a number of people in my life who have reacted negatively to these articles on grief. Their response is either to ghost me, gaslight me, or argue their grief myth with me. …Grief6 min readGrief6 min read
Nov 17, 2022Ashes to AshesI have just returned home after having traveled to Florida and back to bury Brian’s ashes there. I write this because I was once again struck with people’s complete ignorance about grief and what it is all about. I write this because there appears to be confusion about my motivation…Grief12 min readGrief12 min read
Sep 14, 2022Member-onlyCommitment and GriefLet me ask you a question: are you a person of your word? Seriously. Answer the question. When you make a commitment do you stick with it? Do you follow through? I bet that every single person reading this article answered “Yes!” …Grief8 min readGrief8 min read
Sep 14, 2022Member-onlyThe Hardest Obstacle on the Tough MudderOn June 5 2022 I participated in my fifth Tough Mudder. I hadn’t planned on it but friends who were running invited me to go along with them. It was tough. But not in the way you might assume. A Tough Mudder is an endurance event where people traverse obstacles…Grief8 min readGrief8 min read
Jun 6, 2022Speak From Your HeartLast week I wrapped up two courses on Emotional Intelligence: one from the University of Michigan and one from Yale University. Also last week, I received a text from a friend and colleague from many years ago who stumbled upon my book on loss, “Come as You Are: Meditation &…Grief4 min readGrief4 min read
Jun 3, 2022Don’t give up. Ever.Dedicated. What does dedicated mean do you? Is it a concept your hold close to your heart? Or is it simply some concept you understand but fail to truly connect with, let alone navigate life with? Committed. Does this word describe you? Does it describe the “you” that you bring…Commitment4 min readCommitment4 min read
